How to End My Relationship?
Question by Morgan: How to end my relationship?
I’ve been with my boyfriend for about seven months now. Yes, I love him dearly. He’s become my best friend and the one I confide in. We’ve been through a lot together; for example I got pregnant by him and miscarried when I was about 7 weeks along.
The problem is I have been unhappy with him for a very long while now. This led to cheating on my part, VERY wrong I know. I’ve tried breaking up with him, and it only ends up with him crying. The most recent event he wouldn’t let go of “us”, so we agreed to see each other a few times a week, and try to see if wee can be happy together again (he admitted he was unhappy with me), then after summer we would see if we were happy enough together to be a real couple. He’s decided he’s miserable with and without me.
He has started doing pills, smoking weed, and drinking fairly heavily. All of this worries me, but he keeps telling me if I was gone for good he’d just go deeper into the drugs and alcohol. This worries me even more because he is only 17!!
I love this boy, with all of my heart. The thing is we aren’t happy together anymore. I want space, and he wants to constantly cling to me.
What can I say to him, to end things permanently without him going off the deep end and just becoming a drug addicted loser (the same way he was when we met!). I don’t want to hurt him, but we both know we aren’t happy together anymore. There’s not even a physical attraction anymore. I had thought of letting his dad know about his drug/alcohol abuse. I’m not sure if that would make it better or worse, or if his dad would even believe me. His mom is not a person that would care, she’s smoked weed with him and buys him alcohol and even knows he’s done hard stuff like cocaine!
I don’t know what to do.
He is 17, and I am 19. I’ve been in a serious relationship before, but he’s never been in a REAL serious relationship. For example he’s only dated a few girls, and only dated them for a few months. He thinks I am his fairytale princess, and that we will live happily ever after. When I was pregnant he wanted us to plan a wedding for right after his 18th birthday, which made me uncomfortable. A mutual friend told him about my cheating while we were on breaks, and now he says he can’t trust me and has no physical attraction to me, but keeps saying we can work things out. He is very serious about me, but I know that we are both faar too young to take things as serious as he does. We fight over petty things, like when he spends the night with me and I want top stay up late to read while he wants to sleep. Or if I want to go the club with friends just to be able to dance and have loud music blarred at me, over music in the car because he likes metal and I hate it, over my not seeing him when I am pretty much currently a live in nanny for one of my good friends and I don’t have a car. Heck we even got into a fight over him wearing a dirty shirt instead of one I bought him that was clean.
We are both just miserable! I love him, but he has no trust in me, and I’m not happy with him. I’m worried though because his emotions are VERY fragile, and as I said he’s turned to drugs/alcohol. Honestly I’m worried about the impact it would have on him with a break up, even a clean one. He told me before if we broke up, he’d just turn to drugs after spending weeks locked in his room in the dark. I don’t want to lose him from my life, but I know that the relationship we have isn’t healthy what so ever. He’s tried putting conditions on me, and once I playfully hit him and he lifted me up with one arm and slammed me into the couch!
What is the best way to bring up a total break up? Each time I have, he’s begged for just a break, or said things can fixed if we only give it time.
Best answer:
Answer by free_angel
Tell him it’s over for good and if he wants whine, do drugs, drink and ruin his body go right ahead. Tell him it’s not your fault that he acts like a damn fool.
Answer by yjph
By Just Ending It..
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